So which are you feeling? It may be hard to know (though lust is a pretty easy feeling to identify). Take your time to process your feelings. But with love, you can be yourself, and you recognize that neither of you is perfect. It may take longer to blossom as you open yourself up to a man and get to know him in return. If you’re always eager to jump in bed with this guy, but really don’t get that much out of spending time with him otherwise, you’re likely in lust, not love.īut love sweet love is total and consuming…and it lasts. You can feel lust for someone that you have no emotional or intellectual connection with (that’s pretty much the definition of the hookup). Lust, on the other hand, is more based on physical attraction. You may build him up to be something better than he is simply because that’s what you want. Infatuation is a temporary state, so if this feeling starts to fade, you know that it’s not love.

Infatuation is often more based on the idea or fantasy of a person than the reality. He hasn’t texted you back in 49 minutes! He must be out with another woman!

You haven’t yet been with this man long enough to be certain of his feelings, and so every little thing can send you in a tizzy of worry. The problem is, as researchers discovered, infatuation causes a lot of negative emotions like anxiety, insecurity, and nervousness. When you’re infatuated, you have an overwhelming attachment to a guy. It’s part of the journey to love, but it’s easy to mistake infatuation for love. You may think that your days of being infatuated with a male were long gone after junior high, but intelligent women of every age go through being infatuated.

Is it love or infatuation? Sometimes it’s hard to tell.

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